What the gay's are after

So yeah, incase you hadn't already heard.... gay's are not loved by everybody.

Me personally?

Im really not botherd, each to their own i say, as long as youre not trying to change my religion, im not going to try and change your sexuality.

But while looking through some hateful youtube video's, which are designed against the LGBT community, i came across a really random comment that asked "what do gays want".

Simply put, not much, we want equality. Where we are not treated any different to a straight person.

Why? Well why shouldn't we be? I mean, let's face it, the only way youre going to know if a person is gay, is if that person "comes out". What does it take to come out? Alot. Infact i don't know one gay person who wasn't scared to come out.

Why?

It's scenes like that which send fear into every gay person, because as much as most of the world has moved on to accept LGBT people, there's still those out there who decide that they want to take matters into their own hands and inflict pain / suffering onto one person as a representation for the community that person belongs to.

Does it get that person anywhere? No. Fact is gay people have been around for years and will continue to be around for years, so why would you want to attack them, knowing that you will end up worse off.

So yeah, coming out can be pretty traumatic. I myself came out to a mother who was fine with it, but she sometimes has concerns over my safety (as any parent would) and to a father who.... yeah ok, let's not go there. It's not that he wasn't told, or that he didn't try to put a brave face on it, but he couldn't hide the fact that he's not a fan of gays, nor could he accept that both of his son's were gay.

Anyway, if a person is brave enough to come out and that scares you, can i be honest and tell you WHY it scares you? Because you don't know enough about it. People are always afraid of the un-known.

So if a person comes out to you and youre not sure about what "Being gay" means, then use your time wisely!!! Ask that person some questions if you want to, they might hold the answer that you want to know. Incase youre too scared to do that, here's some basic's about being gay.

• It's not all about the anal. True fact right there. For years i was bullied because people believed that being gay meant that you were into anal sex, either recieving it or giving it, of course those go with the usual insults of how you also get solids out of that area. Ideal comeback for that? Well, if theyre straight, they'll be putting it up somewhere that urine comes out of, so not much better really. Even more interesting fact - not all gays like anal sex, either giving it or receiving it.
• When you find out a person is gay, watch how they don't change, you do. Again, another true fact. When i came out, sure, i was more confident about myself and who i was and what i wanted out of life, but i didn't change. After school, i changed, because i wasnt surrounded by people who just wanted to make your life a mysery. I was instead, surrounded by people who encouraged me to grow as a person. I've seen this happen though, someone finds out that _____ is gay and people act differently around them, while the gay person hasn't changed at all. My advice? Grow up!
• Not all gays are the same. It's far too common now to hear about how every gay man is a hair dresser and how every lesbian is a builder. Fact is, you'll find an LGBT person doing nearly every job going, some are butch, some are not.... But this is something that homophobes will learn through life.
• Were bored of you using the term "gay" as a way to describe something bad. Mini history lesson for you here, "Gay" is a word which used to mean happy, when the LGBT community used the rainbow flag as a way to identify the community, they were called the gay community, because a rainbow is something happy. Your use of the term "that's so gay" or something along those lines, for some, is borderline offencive and never funny.

There's of course other things that i could go on about, but i wont.

Just put simply, if you don't like gays because of what they do, there will be some gays who dont like you because of what you do. If you don't like gays because you dont understand anything about the gay community, the educate yourself. Ask questions, it's the only way you will learn.